|They are one big question mark...|
I got asked to write about this and I’m pretty sure most girls can relate. I’ll try and keep it brief but to be honest I could write a novel on this!
Boys. Where to begin? There’s just so much to talk about! They say that we are the hard ones to figure out but for girls it’s the other way around. In all my 22 years I still can’t understand them. They are complicated creatures. How their brain works is one of life's greatest mysteries. The only thing I've found out is that they love to play games, and it doesn't seem to end with age. Guys just be simple. Tell the girl you like them. End of. Stop with the silly games!
I know we’re in this new age where girls are asking guys out and are taking the lead but to be honest I want a guy to come over to me, impress me, ask me out. I want it to be like the movies, where the boy does everything he can to be with the girl and then at the end they finally kiss in the rain, complete with a backing track of course. But I’m waiting for a fairy- tale that is never going to happen.
I can’t speak for every guy; I’m just talking about the ones I've met so far. But those ones, their impression has been less than desirable. Oh wow! You bought me a drink! Let’s run away and be together forever! (Slight over exaggeration but you get my point)
There are so many different types of boys which fall into a few categories. There are the vain ones who think they’re God’s gift and stand waiting for the girls to come to them (never going to happen mate). Then there are shy, sweet boys who can’t muster up the courage to talk to a girl but when they do they just fumble and make awkward conversation resulting in the girl most likely walking away. Moving onto the cocky boys, who again think they are the greatest thing, but different to the vain ones as they approach girls but can’t handle the rejection so end up shouting abuse at the girl. And finally there are the drunken ones. They can be a combination of any of the others; vain, shy, sweet, cocky but add alcohol to the mix and they believe they are invincible.
Then once in a while a guy will come along and just sweep you off your feet. Every time you see him the butterflies go crazy and you can’t help but smile. I have experienced this once or twice and I ended going out with the guy for a while. However I have this disorder where I attract all the (excuse my language) assholes. It can be quiet difficult to live with but I’ve learnt how to deal with it. My now ex also had a condition; compulsive cheating, one of the main boyfriend disorders. I didn't learn how to deal with that and dumped his cheating ass along with giving him a piece of my mind.
Getting over ex’s is different for everyone, and also depends on how long you were together. One thing for sure is that it doesn't help if you have to see them every day, you’ll never get over them. You’ll always want to go back.
Getting back with an ex is not always a good idea either. Before you do think about a few things: why did you break up? Do you only want to get back together because you’re lonely or do you actually miss them? Maybe you’re only missing the idea of them.
GIRLCODE FOR EX’S:
Okay so this is a major one! I personally have a few friends that this relates to. GirlCode relates to any girl who is your friend or family member.
- Under no circumstance can a friend or family member start dating your ex. That is just one massive no! And if they do they are not a true friend, and you are entitled to never speaking to them again. Same thing goes for crushes, they are out of bounds too.
As Gretchen Weiner once said "Ex-boyfriends are just off-limits to friends. I mean, that's just, like, the Rules of Feminism!" (Mean Girls)
So for now I’m enjoying singleton life. No pressure or worries. I can do what I like and until the right person comes along I’m happy as I am.
What about you? Have you experienced any of the guys I described? How did you deal with them?